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Most parents never fathomed the behavioral changes coming from their child. Most have always loved to be parents even with the lack of sleep coming from a new born. Building memories and sharing new world discoveries with children are amazing to witness, but when children gain more independence, they morph into their terrible twos.

Children don’t come with operating procedures and manuals, so it’s difficult to tailor your parenting style that best suits the child. However, there are times when parents become frustrated with the child and give up. Giving up and surrendering to a stammering, kicking, screaming, and biting child will not do the parent or the child any good. Setting and enforcing rules and standards when you notice a change in the child’s negative behavior, you gave gained an opportunity to mold the behavior into a positive, healthy one.

Children are smart, and notice the stress levels they put their parents through and soon, they master manipulation. This art, adopted by the child can really aggravate the parents. But remember, you are the parent, and you know what works and doesn’t work. Don’t have a moral perspective, when dealing with the child, but use the perspective of working methods. One thing that never works is bribery. Parents use this as a mechanism to help get passed the sassiness of the terrible two’s only to condition their children to respond in a certain manner. Bribery will ruin everything you’ve worked for. It teaches the terrible two, how to be selfish and hold power over the hand feeding them.

A way to counter bribery is to use a reward system. Rewarding has more value than bribing and also offers a more pure relationship with little opportunity for the child to exploit or manipulate the parent. Parent should reward children for positive behavior and not bribe them to act the way they are supposed to in the first place.

Discipline and routine are key elements for dealing with the terrible twos. Once parents have found a working solution for poor behavior, they can implement discipline and routine. 2 year olds need to have structure and routine so there is little room for confusion. Routines help the child understand what expectations are and how to meet these expectations by positive behavior. It’s very important to show your child you love them, especially when they are not acting up. This positive reinforcement is healthy and builds trust.

So what about discipline? Enforcing the expectations deals with discipline and this is where it gets difficult for the parent. Parents must stay consistent and have to be discipline themselves. When 2 year olds start misbehaving, it’s time to make things happen to correct the behavior. Some parents turn their backs to the kids and ignore them on purpose and other parents place their children in time out. These are effective and humane methods, but they don’t work if the parent isn’t committed to enforcing the standard and disciplining the child.

If parents can identify what works for stressful situations, discipline the child, and reward the child with love for positive behavior. The terrible twos will become a walk in the park and parents can enjoy the better moments of that child’s life instead of competing with the 2 year old.

You know that feeling you get when you leave the office late and you’re the only one walking through a dark and empty parking lot towards your car? It’s scary to think that if some random thief (or worse) were to rob you (or much worse!), you would not be able to fend off their attack. When it comes to protecting yourself from danger, whether it be an attacker or a thief or a teenage hoodlum looking to score points with his friends, there are a few general safety guidelines that every women should abide by, and some basic women’s self defense strategies/techniques that every woman should know and be able to execute properly should the situation ever arise.

Prevention

This is one case where prevention really is the best medicine. If you’re going out, make sure you have a friend and don’t allow yourselves to be separated. If you are going home after a long day at the office, make sure your keys and pepper spray on the same ring, and readily available. By avoiding situations where you could be putting yourself at risk, you are much less likely to become a victim. Always have rape prevention in your awareness in shady situations.

Know Where to Strike

If you do come into contact with an assailant, chances are he’s probably bigger and stronger than you are. Make sure that every hit you get in counts by aiming for vital areas like the groin, testicles, eyes, throat or temple. You aren’t going to have much luck if you and your attacker start exchanging blows. Hit them right where it counts, and as soon as they are incapacitated enough for you to break free, run like the wind.

Make use of natural weapons and strengths Nails, teeth, leg strength

Many women think that they don’t stand much of a chance against a male attacker simple because they don’t carry a gun or knife. What many women don’t consider is utilizing their god given weapons such as their teeth and nails. Clawing somebody’s eye out will make them drop their knife or at least flinch tremendously, leaving you enough leway to escape.

Trust Your Gut

Generally speaking, if your gut instinct tells you not to accept that ride home from the man at the bar, you really should listen. As a woman, you are automatically at greater risk for being raped, assaulted, kidnapped or murdered, simply because you are a woman. But you don’t have to sit back and decide that fate has already chosen its course, rape prevention is of high importance. The majority of victims become victims because they believe they aren’t at risk or they don’t do anything to prepare themselves for defending against an assailant. Be one of the smart ones and have a plan of action in place before the moment arrives. Everybody who loves you will thank you.